Using a Strap-On Sex Toy with a Male Partner
As with all things sexual, strap-on
sex is not for everyone. However, many women find it sensual
and exciting to experience the reversal of traditional roles that comes
along with using a strapon with a male partner. Since many
men are hesitant to be on the receiving end of anal sex and
stimulation, approaching the idea with sensitivity and careful
consideration of your lover's feelings is very important.
Here are some do's and don't's for easing your
partner into strap on play by sharing a series of intimate
|Do start with a conversation. Naturally,
having an open discussion about your feelings is the first step toward
turning your fantasies into reality. Pick a neutral time --
have long enough to chat and you aren't currently engaging in any
sexual activity -- to bring up your idea. You may find that
is as eager to explore this new idea as you are. If that's
read no further. Go have some fun! Unfortunately,
it's also possible
that your partner will be completely opposed to the idea and unwilling
to discuss it any further. If that's the case, you will
to enjoy your strap-on desires alone, as your own personal fantasies,
in the future. More likely than not, however, your partner
open to the suggestion even if he's not ready to dive in right away.
Don't harp on the
Once you've had your initial talk, give your lover some time
to the idea before pushing him to take further action. See if
brings up your fantasy in the near future. Allowing him to
next move will take the pressure off and give him a better sense of
control over the situation. If he doesn't mention anything
conversation, it's okay to bring it up again and start implementing a
plan to act on your fantasy.
Do start small.
Literally. While anal sex is known to be very
enjoyable for many men,
it can take some getting used to for everyone. Experiment
fingering first, or use a small anal
probe to get him used to the different sensations that
accompany anal play. Remember to use plenty of lubricant,
and proceed with caution. Give your partner plenty of
express his pleasure or displeasure and to tell you what feels good
(and what doesn't)! You will surely have more fun with any
stimulation you try when you know your lover is enjoying himself as
Don't rush things.
Take your time exploring anal sex play together until you are
entirely comfortable. Get to know what you each enjoy, so
that you can
concentrate and elaborate from there.
Do purchase a
quality strap-on. When you're ready for the big
event, make sure that you purchase a strap-on
that is high quality. You want to make sure that the harness
adjustable so that you can make it fit you comfortably. Soft
is a great choice, but nylon and other fabrics can work well, too.
best strap-ons are flexible, like the ones in the Vac-U-Lock
series that allow you to try out different dildo
using the same harness. That way, you can continue
the size, shape, texture, and material to discover which ones give your
lover the most pleasure.
Most importantly, don't
forget to be appreciative.
Let your partner know how pleased you are that he was willing
explore your fantasy with you and offer to do the same for him in the
future. With any luck, experimenting with strap-ons will be
of many mutually enjoyable and intimately personal experiences for you